Have you ever had a month where everything seems to be going wrong? You plan to get to a meeting early but your bus turns up half an hour late and not only does this happen once but 3 times, you finally decide that the course you're studying isn't what you really want, the shower suddenly breaks, the bathroom light doesn't work, your cat eats your freshly baked scones whilst you were out of the kitchen for 5 minutes... I could honestly write an essay worth of listing everything that has gone wrong this month. But that would just be a post of complaints rather than resolving the issues!
Somehow, with all the things that have gone wrong this month, I've still managed to pull through. So here's a few tips of mine to power through and combat the bad days!
LAUGH IT OFF
Yes, I did find my cat eating my 'warm from the oven' freshly baked scones on the kitchen counter. I left the room for 5 minutes, came back and there she was almost sat on them, chomping away at a scone. As peeved as I was for wasting my time making a batch of scones just for a cat to eat them, I looked at her and thought 'whatever'. Sometimes the best thing to do is laugh at the situation rather than storming off in anger, it'll only make you feel 10 times worse. Cat ate your scones? At least someone likes your baking...
FIND HELP FROM THE RIGHT PEOPLE
If you've read my post from last September you will remember me talking about my struggles with university. My first semester at my new course wasn't brilliant, I was still affected by the events of Gloucestershire and I was struggling to settle in. After Christmas I wanted to start the second semester with a positive aura, but it all came tumbling down when, after spending a week in lectures, something just didn't feel right. After some long thought after the past couple of weeks I finally realised that studying photography in depth wasn't at all right for me.
I broke down in tears and I didn't know what I was going to do, until I did some research on the university website and found a careers advisor service. Speaking to a careers advisor was my greatest decision, I needed help so I asked for it. Our conversation was confidential so I didn't feel bad for saying I didn't like my course and I didn't feel like a failure for being so indecisive. They were so helpful and it only took two meetings to figure out what I was looking for. Not everyone has the right advice, you just have to find the right person who you can trust to help you make the right decisions.
HAVE A CUP OF TEA
It's true! Having a cup of tea really does settle your worries. It may not work for everyone, you may not even like tea, but taking some time out to just sit down with a hot brew allows you to slip away from anything that's been bugging you. Whenever I find myself worrying, annoyed or something has gone totally wrong I always find myself returning to a calm state once I've had a sit down with a cup of tea. Then distracting myself with music, doing a bit of writing, playing on the Xbox, or just watching some tv.
TAKE A WALK
A bit of fresh air really does wonders. The other day I was so frustrated that I couldn't wash my hair because the shower was broken, I honestly felt a complete mess! So I quickly got dressed, tied my hair up into a French plait and went for a walk. It was freezing out there, the sun wasn't particularly warming but I completely forgot about the shower situation. Even if it's just a quick walk to the shops or taking your dog for a walk, it's such a great feeling when your out of the house and taking in the fresh air.
Probably one of the most difficult things to do is to stay positive. Especially when everything seems to be going wrong for you. But having a positive mind set keeps you proactive in your decisions. When I thought everything was going wrong for me I turned things around by staying positive and taking the time to make the right decisions. You have to tell yourself that 'yes, there is a way around this' and 'no, I won't give up'. It's so difficult but if you truly believe in something then you must stay positive to get through your troubles.
WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN
No matter what the problem is I always feel 10 times better after writing everything down. This could quite simply be writing in a journal, in a blog post, few pages of a notebook or even a to-do list so you know what needs to be done right away. I feel as though I can resolve my issues better if I write them all down, sometimes your mind gets muddled up with everything, so writing things down is a good way of mapping out all your problems so you can read them over and figure out ways to resolve them. I even find writing down what I need to say in a notebook before I go to an important meeting or even speaking on the phone, that way I'm not keeping everything I need to say in my mind so I wont end up forgetting anything important.
These are just a few tips I came up with, not everyone has the same way of powering through bad days. But all of which help me to power through my bad days (or whole month in my case!). If you have any other tips and advice of your own, I'd love to hear them! So please do share in the comments below!